Took 4 Girls On False Allegations, No Return 3 Years Later
Hello… I am the mother of 4 beautiful daughters and 1 amazing son.
My girls were stolen. They refuse to give them back. The case is not off facts. It’s off their personal feelings.
As a child I didn’t have my mother. I always yearned to be with her. Growing up I had love. I never felt completely loved. I swore that my children would not see the things I saw. Experienced the things I experienced. Or feel the hurt that I felt. My mother was murdered. I was 15. It tore my entire everything apart. I was headed down a dark and empty path…
One day I was saved
The day those 2 little lines appeared on that test back in 2003.
In 2004 my entire everything changed and I had a reason… A reason to live… Reason to breathe… A reason to push harder in life than I ever had.
A 7 pound 1 ounce reason solidified within me. That I would forever have the one person who the love was without question. Our love for one another was unwavering and solid.
Over the years I was blessed with 3 more angels
There were days I struggled; nights I cried myself to sleep. There were so many happy moments. That those hard times were always worth it. I haven’t always done things perfectly. I have always done everything I could. Including working 2 full time jobs. I was left as a single mother to 4 children.
I’ve always tried to do what I felt was in the best interest of my children. As I will until my dying day. I love ALL of my kids. Know that right now my older two claim to hate me.. I remember many days as a teen hating my parents. Those moments are expected.
I’m not meant to be their friend, for life
I’m meant to be their mother, for eternity.
Plus to be honest there has been no one who has TRULY tried to help reconnect us. I feel. That with peoples actions and words. They’d prefer my older two kids continue their hatred and anger towards me.
I moved to Columbia, SC in the beginning of 2016. After my having to call the police on my husband. For physically putting his hands on my 2nd oldest daughter on Oct 3, 2016 I became a single mother.
After struggling alone with 4 kids; with no support system, no family and really no friends.
Move to Oregon
I decided that moving myself and my girls back to Oregon. Where all our family and friends are was for the best.
My oldest daughter was livid about the decision. She had been sneaking a relationship with a boy. I had forbidden her dating. I say she is too young.
On July 26th, 2017 I took my daughter’s phone and did one of my random go through in her phone. Which includes all social media and messages. (I was supposed to approve anyone added.)
Shattered my soul
I found so much graphic content. Videos, messages, pictures. Things the City of Columbia Police Dept had trouble describing. Due to the graphic nature. There were videos of my 13 year old daughter doing drugs. Messages that verified her sexual exploration with boys and girls alike. A ton of Super graphic sexual natured stuff that even I have never sent to anyone myself. Things that as a mother completely shattered my soul.
We were leaving at the beginning of the week. We were staying in the extended stay hotel behind Walmart on forest drive. I had went outside to smoke a cigarette. While I looked through her phone. She came outside and asked me for her phone. I told her that I found everything. She started talking smart and stormed back into the hotel slamming the door.
I won’t lie. I had had enough of her disrespect. And I followed her into the room and spanked her twice on her butt.
Ruining her life
She starts screaming about how I am ruining her life. Making her leave and how hes the person she really loves. There was a ton of screaming. I finally said loudly. I was done for the night. Regardless of how she felt that we were leaving. She would not be seeing the boy anymore. Since she had already snuck behind my back. To see him and say bye to him. She kept screaming about me ruining her life. Taking her away from her one true love. That’s why he touched her. I asked her who “he” was and she said “H”. Who was my boyfriend. On and off since Sept 2016.
I asked her what she was talking about. She just said well he touched me. I needed the situation to calm down. Before we had any further conversation. And I told her to lay down. As her sisters were going to bed. We needed to take some deep breaths and calm down. Before we talked. That we would finish the conversation. When everyone calmed down.
She ran in the bathroom and barricaded herself. Out of fear I called my sister. That I had an on and off relationship with. Her and my daughter were always close. I asked her to come and help me. My sister came and got my daughter to come out of the bathroom. We agreed to meet in the morning to deal with the situation.
My sister did not give that chance
She ignored my calls and texts. Instead taking my daughter by herself to make a report.
I got a call. Asked to come talk to a worker at DSS. Upon getting there I felt it very weird. The interview was conducted inside a vehicle. Rather than me going inside the building. I answered his questions and left.
I picked my 3 younger kids up from daycare and went back to my hotel. All the while trying to get in contact with my sister. For my oldest daughter.
I got a call from DSS. Stating that they wanted me to do a safety plan. And let my sister take my kids. She had things going on with her own children. I said absolutely not. My sisters son was moving back into the home from DSS. He had sexual abuse allegations. I didn’t want my kids in the home.
Next thing I know. My kids and I were surrounded by police. Held hostage not allowed to leave. 15 to 20 mins later a detective pulled up. After hearing that I had plans to leave home to Oregon he took my children from me.
Ever had your entire everything ripped away from you like you were nothing? That day was by far the worst day of my life. Was given nothing. No papers. No documents.. nothing.
Friday, July 27, 2017
My life was torn to shreds. Shattered for what seems like forever. Saturday morning “H” and I went to the City of Columbia PD. To speak to the detective in the case Officer Haas. He was not there but the sergeant (Sgt. McCrackin) over the detectives was there and he spoke to us.
I told him I wanted to know the truth and I turned in my daughters phone. In case there was any evidence in it. “H” and I both told him we were open to anything they needed. “H” remained insistent that he DID NOT EVER touch my child.
Waiting until Monday was torture. Not knowing anything about my own kids. If they were ok. Were they crying. The pain was so real.
The run around
Monday morning I went to Richland Co DSS. Sat there until they opened at 8 am. Finally was told that the caseworkers didn’t come in until after 9 am. Was sent on my way. I left and went to City of Columbia Pd. Was told they couldn’t help. Went back to DSS and someone came out and gave me a number to call. Written on a purple post it note. I left and tried to call the number. When I got no response. I went BACK to DSS. After waiting for 30 more mins. I was called in the back. Told “Thank Goodness you are here. We are about to start a family meeting for your case.”
I asked them what they meant. Since it just so happened that I was there. How no one bothered to reach out to me to tell me about said meeting. Little did I know.. This would be a long line of injustice that I would endure at the hands of Sc DSS.
Court was set over. Time and time again.
Finally saw a Judge
We finally got in front of a judge at the end of Sept 2017. The GALS office and DSS were both trying to add things. Such as family counseling onto my case plan.
The judge set everyone straight. She said that they were not ordering family counseling. They had not previously asked for that. She would order my daughter into counseling. That’s what they originally asked for. She would not allow them to ask for certain things to be completed. When I did those things. That more would be thrown my way to do. She told me I could return home to Oregon and do my visits over video chat. She said it sickened her. A mother and her kids were torn apart. All due to a housing issue. And she instructed DSS to use any resources to help me maintain housing. So I could get my children home.
3,000 miles back HOME (OR)
Left feeling like I could trust the system. Would have my kids back soon.
I left on Oct. 3, 2017 and went the 3000 miles back home. I got a job. Was working to get into a place.
Was notified court was Dec 5th. I HAD to be there. I left and went back to Sc. Dec 5th I sat in court all day. Was notified around 3:30 pm that 16 cases were on the docket. My case wouldn’t be seen. After driving clear across the country…. For nothing. I tried one more time to leave to make things better for myself and my kids.
Once again had to drive clear across the country. For court to be set over again.
I decided that I couldn’t keep going back and forth. Had no choice but to stay in a city that I hated. With no support… no family.. no friends.
Back to SC
Found out shortly after coming back to Sc, I was pregnant. I got 2 full time jobs.. At a certain point 2 full time jobs was too much. I dropped to just 1.
Went to court summer of 2017. The GALS office once again came to court with some extra stuff.
Apparently I’m supposed to allow disrespect. My kids to be out of hand during my visits. She asked the judge to put a no contact order on me. For my oldest 2 girls until I did a psych evaluation. I had the psych evaluation done within 3 weeks. Had even started going to one on one counseling once a week.
Everything with “H” was closed. My case was supposed to be strictly a housing issue case.
I got into a place August 2017.
I let everyone know about my place. Even started doing my visits with the younger 2 girls at my home. I’ve never received even a phone call from the GAL. I have only seen her in court. She has ALWAYS fought my children coming home.
The next time in court. Once again DSS was in agreeance. To send the two younger kids home. And transition the older 2. The GAL fought it every time. DSS just sat back and went with what she said.
My lawyer has refused to meet with me and I only see her at court same as the GAL.
I completed parenting classes, one on one counseling, parent protection clarification courses, kept every visit, every meeting, every court date.
My kids have come to visits with busted lips, bruises, rashes, head lice (ON NUMEROUS OCCASIONS). My older 2 girls were allowed cell phones. Against my wishes. In which they are sexting. Being provocative on social media lives. Publicly bashing me. All without consequences from the foster mom.
Instead she commented on the public forum. And said that prayed for a daughter. From the moment she laid eyes on my girls. She knew they were meant for her.
It was supposed to be temporary placement so why!!??
My daughters were on Live. One showed a glimpse of her inbox. Where someone had sent her a dick pic.. A grown mans penis and balls… I have the screenshots if you need them.
Her 12 yr old sister was on live. Pulling her clothes up and pulling the front of her pants down. Talking to a grown man with the screen name “make her squirt69”. Mind you this was at 1 am in the morning. My girls have been allowed to go out to the mall. Other places without adult supervision. Videos on social media making out with her latest boyfriend. Posts indicating her sexual behavior. Rather than banning the phones. I was blocked. So I cant see what they post.
Before they put the no contact order on me. My older daughters would be disrespectful and smart mouthed. I would try to correct them. I was told by DSS that I was supposed to ignore the behavior. Because the stuff the girls were doing were to get a reaction out of me.
I volunteered to do counseling with my oldest. Before it was ordered. However, after I learned it was students doing the sessions. Which weren’t working. I tried to get it done elsewhere. I’ve been refused to do counseling with my older 2 girls. Even since the order was made for it through the courts. After getting my place in August. I had court in Oct 2018, Jan 2019, and March 2019. In total compliance with DSS. With no real reason as to why my kids were not returned home to me. Other than the GAL objected.
In January 2019 my merits hearing finally happened. I was taken in a room. Told by the lawyers and DSS that if I didn’t agree to the plan. That they would take my son along with the girls. I was never even allowed to read the merits packet. Before going in front of the judge. I felt I had no choice. As I was deathly afraid of my son being taken from me. Upon leaving the courthouse and reading the packet I felt sick…
DSS states that I have said that I would relinquish rights to my older 2 girls. I have NEVER said that and will NEVER do that. I have worked very hard to get my children back home with me.
The foster mom of my younger 2 girls. Stated that the GAL has not been to see my girls since Christmas 2017. She continues to find reasons against me. I’ve always done what has been asked of me. I feel as though its a personal vendetta. Rather than whats best for my children.
Proven fit for my son. Why not my girls?
I had my son in Nov 2018. And have proven fit to have him. I have even had caseworkers say they don’t understand. How I can be seen fit for one child but not my other children. Since moving home I have obtained employment. A 3 bed 2 bath house for myself and my children.
Back to Oregon
Sc DSS has not only called Oregon DHS. But has also sent the police to my friends house. Before I got my place. Causing me to not stay in her house anymore (DSS says I got kicked out. Either way it was DSS fault)
Not only did DHS but the Portland Pd declined to involve themselves. Once they knew the facts of the situation. The day I signed my lease I sent it to DSS and my lawyer. The next day Oregon DHS showed up at my house. Saying that they got a report to the hotline for my son. After talking we have been working together and Oregon DHS says they would like my girls home with me.
The GAL and DSS have screamed how my oldest daughter keeps her same story. Even though every part of the allegations that were made were closed.
In the beginning my older 2 girls were in their own foster homes. And my younger 2 were together. My older 2 girls had my youngest claim she was sexually touched by another foster child..
It was found to be a lie. That was told by my kids to try and get the other child thrown out of the foster home. 2nd to oldest thought she would be placed there.
Both my oldest 2 have been removed from numerous foster homes. Due to behavior. Stealing.. Fighting… Lying.. Bullying… The list goes on and on.
After the no contact order went into affect. 2nd to oldest was sneaking to call me.. Once my oldest moved in with her. Her entire attitude changed towards me. (She had wanted to come home and was constantly calling me.) Also toward “H” who she was ALWAYS ok with. (Kerri Presley even spoke on that).
I was calling DSS EVERY time she called. To avoid getting into trouble.
What did the GALS office do???
FILED CONTEMPT OF COURT… ON… ME!!!!!
Oh and in the GALS initial report. She said my oldest recanted her statement… That’s on the report that went to the judge. The GAL lied. Said I was upsetting my kids at my visit.. The one visit she is talking about… It was her and my oldest who upset 2nd to oldest..
When I came in for the visit. I said I’m short a child. Was told 2nd to oldest was in the other room. When 2nd to oldest entered the room. She was visibly angry.. Fists clenched.. Tears falling… She said the GAL and her sister were talking together bad about me. How they weren’t going to come home at the next court date. My daughter said THE GAL even BET my child that she wouldn’t be going home. Used Christmas presents as the betting object…
Kerri Presley was not the case worker watching the visit. She was not in the office. There was another worker… I made a report about this and the entire visit to DSS and my lawyer
My daughter has been using drugs, drinking alcohol.
(Given to her from another foster child’s sister. From another foster home.) Having unprotected sex with older men leaving her with multiple pregnancy scares. (Her best friend got concerned and sent me screenshots) She is supposed to be in a therapeutic foster home. Due to her behavior. Yet she is given all the freedom she has. Since the foster mom, in my opinion, will allow anything to make them happy. So they want to stay with her.
I requested DSS to drug test my child. As well as a pregnancy test. And an std check. It took DSS almost 3 weeks to get her tested for drugs. Which concerns me. As drugs only stay in your system for a certain amount of time and to me is a serious problem.
Why is Sc not transferring my case
All it takes is a judge in Sc to talk to a judge in Oregon. And give jurisdiction to Oregon.. The kids would go to care in Oregon and I would deal with them… That gets rid of the liability for SC. I’m willing to go through the hassle of dealing with Oregon to get them back from here… I live and breathe for my children I’m just begging for what’s right… My children to come home.
I’ve since had an ICPC done. I got the denial letter which is 100% false and lies and I have professionals and paper proof.. Why are they lying to keep my kids!
I am living in Oregon now. Have a career running a whole restaurant. I have a 3 bed 2 bath home. I have had my son. He is almost 2. They don’t care about him. But I’m bad for my girls?
Not every case is corruption but mine is.
I was a foster child. Was raped while in foster care. Emotionally and mentally abused in care.
My daughter has made FOUR claims of sex abuse since being in their care. Unprotected sex with older men. Pregnancy scares. Drug use..
My 12 year old was talking to grown men on IG.
My family needs help!
I have since had an ICPC done. I got the denial letter which is 100% false, and lies. I have professionals and paper proof..
Why are they lying to keep my kids! I am living in Oregon now. Have a career running a whole restaurant. I have a 3 bed 2 bath home.
I have had my son. He is almost 2. They don’t care about him but I’m so bad for my girls?