Unique Family Situation, No Regard For The Law
In 2013, I found myself pregnant with my third child.
With no guidance, family members or friends to mentor. An already immature, reckless 25 year old. I knew the only thing I could do was to be honest about the situation. I advised both potential fathers the occurrence and my wrong doing in the situation. Frightened, I considered my two oldest children and the little one growing inside of me. I needed to make sure their best interests were being taken into consideration.
I was 99.9% on my child’s biological father yet I did not have all the facts to make the best decision at that moment. The biological father wanted nothing to do with myself or his child. I could not blame him and allowed the other potential father to be involved. Not realising the damage I had chosen to accept into my home, my daughter’s fate was being set.
At the hospital, I was never advised on the potential effects of a Paternity Affidavit. During what is meant to be a blessing and celebration, Indiana has chosen to allow legal documentation to be signed and law abiding in a possibly stressful time.
Every situation is unique when a child is involved, how the child is taken care of financially should never be signed away without proper advise and consideration.
We took the DNA test in the hospital room, two days after returning home with my daughter, the letter came to the potential fathers mothers address. Reading together at my home, we all witnessed that my daughter belonged to the other male.
Now some adult men, gladly raise other children they share no DNA with. I praise those men, unfortunately my story never had that happy ending.
I became the victim of domestic abuse, my children were not living the life I wanted for them. I finally found my voice, strength and courage to stand up and make the decision to move and provide the life I wanted for them.
I allowed my two oldest to go live with their father under terms that I believed at the moment it was in their best interests. I paid support, became the weekend mother all for them to be in a better environment until I could provide it for them.
My youngest, myself and my elderly grandmother moved only 15 minutes away to be able to still be near my two oldest but also cut all ties from anyone and everyone I spoke too for my children’s sake and my own.
For two years, life seemed to be normal. I worked hard, provided for my children and became aware of all my issues to begin to fix myself for them.
After moving into our new home, I began to notice certain vehicles driving by our home on numerous occasions. I advised my neighbors of a few small details only for them to be aware that there should never be anyone at my home except my family.
I moved forward into a new relationship, made new memories and wanted my youngest daughter named changed before her first year in school. Filled out all documents at the City Court house in Madison County, Indiana. Paid the fees, published the information and awaited our court date. The first court date, the “grandmother” that knew she was not related or been around for years sat in the first aisle as I walked into the courtroom.
Confused, I had no idea what had been occurring without my knowledge as I fought for my daughters name to be changed. I never did any research at that point in time, I was unaware of the storm that was growing larger and my youngest daughter’s emotional development was in the middle of it all. I filed for her name change on 4/5/2019 in Madison County Circuit Court 1. It was approved then denied. I only found that information on the mycase website and it still shows Pending as of today.
Still unaware of what is occurring behind closed doors, my daughter started kindergarten. Her school was aware of the court date, minor information about our diverse home life and allowed my daughter for months to go by my last name in the classroom.
My daughter’s behavior began to shift a few months into school which I figured was normal and I had gained custody of her two oldest sisters as well before school began. Many life changes can interrupt the behavior which I was full aware of.
It was not until Dec 2019 that by accident, my youngest slipped on her school bus and told her sisters about visitation that had been occurring without my knowledge.
I immediately called her school principal, I was told that this type of situation had occurred before in their school, I was advised that the principal and an officer viewed my daughter’s birth certificate and assumed that these individuals were her “grandparents.”
I was not informed immediately that a letter from the “said father” was written from a prison, advising my daughters school, he was allowing his mother and step father to visit my daughter on a daily basis without my knowledge.
Living in a small town, the Principal, her staff, my daughter’s teacher, Superintendent, Chief of Police, a Judge of the town which has became a lawyer now all have acted as if they never broke any laws.
The said “grandfather” grew up in this town, I do not believe it is only the small town mentality playing a role in this unique situation.
My daughter was manipulated, told if she mentioned to me about the visits she would be in big, big trouble. I am unaware if they took my daughter off the property, I am unaware of many details I have asked on numerous phone conversations.
My relationship with my daughter had multiple individuals that tried to alienate herself from my teachings. I believe all the adults played a factor into her behavior over those months. I did not want my daughter especially at her young of an age to be involved in adults manners which they made sure to put that burden on her shoulders.
She had always grew up knowing that I did everything for her, her sisters and grandmother. When her sisters would go on weekend visits or holidays to visit family, I have always told her how special she was that God gave her to me to raise as Mother and Father. That every home is different yet a blessing if you look at the positive side of it all. I was going to sit her down at the appropriate age to discuss my actions and how she came into this world. Now that will never happen due to living in fear on a daily basis.
Once I became aware of the visits, I immediately stopped them. The “grandparents” made appearances at school events, made it as awkward as possible and her best interests have not been kept in mind by any other individual than myself.
On 1/8/2020 the said “father” petition to intervene for Grandparent Visitation. The only other court date pertaining to my daughter was held on 10/09/2015 when I petitioned for emergency custody, that he failed to appear at. He has never petition the court for visitation, he never secured his parental rights and he has never financially or emotionally supported my daughter over the years. He abandoned her in the eyes of the court to live a criminal lifestyle. The said “grandfather” also has a long criminal lifestyle and is one of many reasons I moved my family too start fresh in life. By court documentation, paternity was established during the emergency custody petition in 2015.
Even though I mentioned and asked multiple times about a DNA test being performed. This court, Madison County Circuit Court 2 has completely disregarded my fundamental rights as her fit Mother to raise my child the way I deem necessary for her best interests.
The small town judge I hired had a friendly relationship with all parties I was unaware of and taken advantage of and he aided in the judge’s approval of Grandparent Visitation on 1/31/2020. Evidence never was considered, the judgment I believe was already made before court. I did all my own research for the lawyer to disregard anything I had to say during court.
The first order was made so that the “grandmother” could visit my daughter at school due to all the supervision available. Mycase.gov explains all details I was made aware of at court yet the order that never got mailed to my address or given to myself once I made my payment of 800.00 to the attorney was worded different at the bottom of the order.
The judge allowed school visits due to supervision by staff, the bottom of the order stated after school let out that the “grandmother” could have weekly visits alone and an overnight at her home. This information still has not been added to mycase.gov. I did as the judge ordered in his words during court and put the “grandmother” on the list. Advised the school that her alone could visit per the judge order but only once a week.
On Valentine’s Day, the “grandmother and grandfather” disregarded the order and went to a classroom party to be near my daughter.
In March, the moment the President declared a state of emergency, I began to be harassed by the “grandmother” She stated I was in contempt and continued to harass myself even after being asked on numerous occasions to leave us alone.
On April 22, 2020, the “grandmother” trespasses on my landlord’s property, continued to act immature for multiple minutes even after being advised by my landlord, myself, my spouse and many neighbors to please vacate the property due to my children all being inside, curious as to the drama occurring outside their home.
My spouse did allow his emotions to overcome him, he reached into “the grandmothers” vehicle to keep her from video recording and once I called the law, the officer went to “the grandmother” as if she had become a victim of a horrible crime. My spouse did invade her space, he did not cause harm or purposefully injure her by his actions. He did not threaten her, he only overreacted due to emotions for all my children. Not wanting to state he was in the right because he and I both know he should have never walked outside. But as all of us humans are aware, certain times in our life we make choices that in a moments time can be turned into legal action being taken towards you.
He has two court dates due to this situation now. At my contempt hearing over the phone due to Covid-19, the “grandparents” attorney once again never mentioned my daughters best interests, “grandmother” perjured herself to the judge, the criminal case continued to be brought up to the judge in regards to the situation on April 22. They were seeking attorney fees to be paid by myself at that time. The judge did not find myself in contempt, he revised the visitation to every Monday and Wednesday for 1 year over video chat for “grandmother” to speak to my daughter.
Due to her working at a Prison, she was advised to be tested for the Covid. Having paperwork all over my vehicle at the time, I was not notified hearing were being held over the telephone at the time. I was fully prepared with multiple documentation to hand the judge due to it beginning the first time I was able to speak on behalf of my daughters best interest. Over the telephone, their attorney was verbally aggressive, the judge advised myself to mention anything including Covid as to why I had not allowed visitation. I was threatened by the judge to seek counsel or I may land in jail due to mentioning my fundamental parental rights. I have researched as much as I can since December 2019.
I have made sure to be aware of all laws, statues and time limitations on filing paperwork in the circuit and federal court rooms. Everyone is aware I am financially unable to obtain a lawyer. I was unable to pay the fee that I needed too for this case to be brought up in an appeals court room.
I have reached out to free legal aid, I fear that it will only turn into a who is friends with who, who will line pockets with each other to possibly take my daughter away.
I live in fear each day that she will be taken, I live in fear that I will be cuffed for standing up for her best interests, for not bowing to those that believe the law does not pertain to them.
I have been unable to reach anyone for months that may listen to my story and notice that it does sound odd. It sounds as if the law is not being upheld to the standard we all grew up too respect and appreciate.
More importantly than anything, not only is my youngest daughter affected by this situation. Her two oldest sisters are as well. My decision may it be deemed as irresponsible at the time of my daughter’s making, is not a valid reason to emotionally damage her or her sisters emotional development.
I am not looking to gain any monetary from this situation. I am not seeking revenge or am I asking for pity due to my actions.
I have raised my children to be aware of the difference between right and wrong. To learn as they grow the laws that were put into our capital to protect any individuals that may come across another that believes they are above the law.
Daughter was born on June 10, 2014
DNA test not court approved taken at hospital on June 11th, 2014
Paternity Affidavit signed on June 12th, 2014 Boxed checked too NOT share joint legal custody. Never explained or allowed private time to sign Affidavit.
June 13th DNA results came in mail, viewed by all parties. (I do not have any documentation on results, “said father” acknowledge taking it over the phone during Name change hearing.
Protective Order towards all my children, grandmother and myself granted by Madison County Circuit Court 2 due to said “father” violent behavior, residential entry break and enter dwelling. Criminal mischief damage or defacement was caused by paint or other markings.
10/09/2015 order Petition for Emergency custody, paternity stated by court established during that hearing. Judge Pancol. “Father” failed to appear.
2016 “grandfather” drove drunk with my daughter in vehicle, I was notified by town Chief of Police my daughter was in the next town over held by the local police officers due to the incident. No harm came to my daughter thankfully.
1/9/2018 No contact order by Madison County Circuit Court 5 to said “father” not allowed to contact myself.
2017-2019 No contact from “grandparents/father” to continue a meanfuling relationship with my daughter.
Petition for name change, 4/5/2019
August 2019, visitation began to occur without my knowledge or consent during school hours.
6/26/2019 said “father” violated no contact order.
Unaware of date, letter was received by Elementary School approving visitation by a man not involved in any decision making.
Dec 2019 became aware of State and Federal laws being broken by multiple individuals.
Spoke to Principal on 12/1/2019
Spoke to Chief of Police 12/12/2019
12/13/2019 Principal made it known that she would not continue to speak to me about the situation. I did mention to her I was aware of her having no regards for my rights or caring for my daughter’s development.
Do not have date of when I spoke to Superintendent, I had to leave voicemail in the month of December. He never reached out towards myself, it was not until The violation by “grandparents” in Feb 2020 was I able to reach him by telephone.
Appearance by said “father” filed on 1/8/2020
Motion to intervene filed 1/8/2020 by said “father”
Motion for Grandparent Visitation Filed 1/8/2020
Order Granting Motion to intervene on 1/9/2020
Hired Kyle Noone Lawyer 1/20/2020
Provided all evidence, laws and documentation on that date. Was told it would be better for me to agree with visitation to have control over the situation rather than have no control. Did not speak to Lawyer until moments before court hearing on 1/30/2020 where he stated the judge will be in the courtroom in a few moments, he would see me in there. The court hearing played out the way Mr. Noone indicated perfectly.
Granted grandparent visitation approved on 1/31/2020 by Judge Pancol
Paid in person on Feb 27, 2020 full amount of 800.00. Mr. Noone only stated hello and spoke to my spouse the time frame we were in his office.
Fired Mr. Noone Feb 27th 2020 due to negligence of my case.
Harassment from “grandmother” began in March 2020.
April 2020 “grandmother” sent a photo of bottom of order which I was unaware of.
Contacted Mr. Noone office in regards to order not being sent out. Received a copy through email on April 14th 2020
“Grandmother” trespassed and intentionally caused mayhem on April 22 2020
3/16/2020 said “father” released from prison.
I have two documents from Facebook Messenger where said “father” and said “grandmother” knowingly admitting that they are not related too my daughter. Document from said “grandmother” stating why would she waste time and money when she is aware the courts are unable to do anything in regards to this situation.
Never reached out or asked for support, raised my daughter alone and I do not expect anyone to raise her but myself.
Motion for Rule to Show Cause filed by “grandparents” on 5/7/2020
Hearing on that motion 6/4/2020 over the phone due to Covid
6/5//2020 Ordered issued, mycase states a copy was sent on that date to all parties. I have yet to receive that order.
6/16/2020 Notice to the court and request for court assistance.
6/17/2020 administrative event
6/18/2020 notice missed to parties, I have yet to receive any paperwork by mail, officer in person or email.
June 2020 became aware of said “grandparent” friendly relationship with Mr. Noone on Facebook, Mr. Noone is also close to Mr. Norrick (parties attorney) daughter on Facebook. That is conflict of interests. I was taken advantage so my daughters best interests were never discussed at hearing.
Indiana Code: 20-33-7-2 violated by “father”
Indiana Code: 31-14-13-4 violated by “father”, “grandparents”, school officers, judges and attorneys.
Adequate Cause plays a role in this matter.
Indiana Code: 31-14-10 violated by judge. Parenting time and support have never been discussed in a hearing.
Cases that I have referenced IN Re Guardianship of A.J.A, Crafton v. Gibson, In Re Visitation of M.L.B.Rule 616, Rule 607, Rule 901 and Mr. Norrick has failed numerous times to provide the correct evidence to show good cause as to the parties “meaningful contact” over the years where there was no contact. He has made it clear by not providing evidence at the Rule to Show Cause the time or date of my content and is knowingly disregarding his oath has an attorney under law.
My constitutional right as my daughter’s custodial legal and physical guardian has been violated on numerous occasions by the parties, judge’s, attorney’s, an officer of the law and an educational government staffed that I am to trust too have my daughter’s best interest in mind at all times.
I am unaware if anyone reading this may be able to shed a light on anything I may be able to do, assist or guide myself into the correct direction. Due to not fully understanding law and the proper filing methods I have been unable to get any type of assistance on filing a motion to end visitation, any appeals that may have been able to help or show the dectfulliness, perjury occurring and I fear my daughter’s safety, emotional development or that I may be taken away from her due to them all being aware she has no other adult relatives that may care for her if by chance I am jailed over standing up for her rights and my own.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.