The Failings of Judge Kari Kristiansen
My story begins with my first begun at day one with Judge Kari Kristiansen. Before I filed a divorce you have to have a glimpse into what my life was with my ex-husband. I was like a single mom with twins and I quit my job to stay at home because one was in the NICU. I learned really fast what it’s like to have 5 appointments a week because my daughter is 1,000 in the world with oculodentodigital dysplasia. She has had 8 surgeries a lot of flying to Seattle.
She has always turned her eyes to hard evidence against my ex-husband and that blatantly saying that I am the one person that my girls should be with. Their dad was never around for anything.
I thought I prepared myself by hours of recording his alcoholic behavior meant nothing to Judge Kari Kristiansen. Also in 2018 was my ex-husbands first OCS investing his alcohol use. They blew the case by showing up to visit him at the time he got off of work instead of a few hours later to catch him drinking. I had court-ordered supervised visits because my ex-husband had falsified a restraining order and I did complete all of my classes during the first year. I did my supervised visits for 6 months longer than it was ordered. That person had testified for me during my trial, including 7 others.
When my ex had immediately moved in his girlfriend was when I and my friends started to notice a lot of boundary problems with my daughter’s. I set up an appointment with her pediatrician because I thought she needed counseling she told me and her pediatrician that she was being molested by one of the boys who live in her dad’s house. She was also getting kicked every day. The pediatrician looked over my daughter’s body and she said that she had to notify OCS not even a month later my daughter came to my house for her visits with bruising all over her body she had said that the boy had pushed her off her bike on purpose. I asked her during the conversation if that boy was still touching her vagina she replied yes I called her pediatrician. I got her in as soon as possible. She talked to her pediatrician alone at that time I sat in the waiting room because of course their dad always has blamed me for everything. And that time I did not really understand what my daughter told her pediatrician about all I knew was she was calling Ocs again and troopers. I read my daughter’s chart notes which were a nightmare she has gone through every single type of abuse physical, sexual, and nutritional. Being locked in their rooms for days without food and water. Being beaten by everyone in the home. And sexual abuse not only the 8-year-old boy but his 12-year-old brother. I went and filed 2 different restraining orders 2 different times to protect my daughters from the boys. All denied immediately waiting on the Ocs and the trooper’s investigation. Ocs opened and closed the cases because there were 2 at the point. After 1 month they closed them. This was when I called my friend from celebrate recovery caseworker for a year and I cried out what are you waiting for my daughter to wind up raped and found dead on the side of the street? My ex-husband also had another case that year for my other daughters the school had called them for neglecting her medical care after a surgery. He only has been doing the bare minimum for what she needs no therapy only surgeries. He did not even let the school know that she had a surgery that way they can get her back in occupational therapy through her IEP. On top of everything I have been nothing but harassed and stalked by his girlfriend since the last day of my divorce she has been nothing but rude disrespectful and going off on me in front of my girls every single drop off and pick up I usually meet her at the troopers station because of the situation. My divorce was finalized in April for over a year and the only good thing the judge has done is have my ex-husband blood alcohol monitor for 3 months and I can guarantee that he was falling at least every other day. This judge has never court ordered my ex to rehab or anything that I ask for him in motions.
Well, I wound up right back in court because my twin had tried to kill herself in December. I found out through a text and I can say that not one person In their house had taken my daughter to the hospital. I called the school the next day to see if the principal could talk with my daughter and I let him know what took place. Yes, dad had sent her to school the next day as nothing happened. He called me back 3 hours after the sit-down, he also had the nurse and a counselor from the school and he asked me if I can take her to the hospital she is severely depressed. I did not hesitate but the only right I have is in emergencies to set up appointments. I sat there for 6 hours with my daughter and she is terrible. She kept telling me every 3-5 minutes about having thought this is an 8-year-old child that has always been outgoing. Dr’s recommendation Matsu health within 3 days. I set up the appointment and my ex kept calling and canceling my daughter’s appointment.
He was out of town for work and he wanted to wait a couple of weeks until he returned. His girlfriend has always been running my girls around basically like I was when I was in his life because he never did anything. I called Ocs to let them know what was going on with him refusing my daughter’s medical care. I also sent him many text messages throughout the day that he can’t deny our daughter of her needs. He had shown up at 3 with my daughter after multiple games I had to sit in the waiting room and she was going off on me which is nothing new it happened at every single Drs appointment even surgeries with my special needs daughter. After my daughter talked with the suicidal eval I had the pleasure of listening to her talking about everything while his girlfriend was going off on a couch next to me saying that I had no right to do anything legally because my ex has the legal. But I already gave Mat-Su health my custody papers. She was running her mouth when the dr kept saying that my daughter did this because of the parents fighting.
I filed for full legal and physical at the time. I wound up in court in July 2020 and I took copies of every single chart note that my daughter is severely depressed and where it comes from. I also filled out because I have witnesses who have seen my ex purchase alcohol with my kids in tow. My custody clearly states that he cannot have alcohol In his system. The problem is that the Judge first stayed about my disease during the last trial and I let her know that we were there to talk about my daughter. I let her know that I see my neurologist regularly and I have 0 symptoms of Huntington’s disease. It’s been something that she has held against me for the whole process with no one testifying about my disease but my self and I have chart notes to prove that. I take care of myself this is the only evidence besides a google link my ex’s attorney showed the judge. As of right now when I was writing this another OCS case is opened for the fighting in his home with his girlfriend, he has been physical, emotional to her. My daughter tried to kill herself just because of the constant fighting that comes with him. This is a very difficult time 9 cases now and they have always been open close and on top of that I have a terrible judge that is turning a blind eye.
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I reached out to Bekah to contact you to see if you could help her and her children. I believe her story. I believe she is a good mom who loves her kids 100% and is being tormented not only by the father and whoever he has allowed to hurt these children, but even worse is what this judge has ignored and allowed to continue. I am so thankful to see that you are helping her and I will be an advocate witness if needed because this judge had a responsibility to these children and she did nothing to protect them from their father. She should get full custody. Thank you so much for helping this family! Bekah can contact me if you need to. If there’s anything I can do to help let me know. God bless you for helping her! God answers prayers. I told her she is strong and God will help her through this process.
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